I’ve been there. I’ve been in that space where, you know that you are capable of so much more, yet there is something stopping you. Something holding you back. Something causing you to not finish that project, to advertise that product…
You’ve been there too haven’t you?
In fact, many of you are still there, aren’t you? Still procrastinating. Still self-sabotaging. Still avoiding. Doing the bare minimum, and simply not doing things at all, for fear of what others will think or do, if you succeed, or if you fail.
And there it is… the number 1 thing that’s holding most of you back, and stopping most of you from the success you truly deserve. FEAR!
I come across this every day in my clients. It’s usually the biggest emotion that we remove from their minds, and by far, the one that cripples people the most.
That fear of not being good enough. The fear of not being worthy. The fear of rejection. The fear of success. The fear of failure. The fear of what other people will think, do and say.
So many fears. So many doubts. So much heartache.
Fear can cripple you. It can stop you from taking the right action. It can stop you from speaking up. It can STOP you doing everything in your business.
For years, I lived with all these fears. Even though some of them were unconscious, they were definitely there. I worried endlessly about what other people would think. What they would say. I worried that people would find out that I was a fake, and a fraud. (I am none of those things). I was afraid that my work wasn’t nearly good enough, or that I was worthy of success.
I had absolutely no self-belief, no self-worth. My confidence was completely nonexistent, and my self-esteem was exceptionally low.
So, even though I managed (I’m not sure how sometimes) to have relatively successful businesses, I was always waiting for the “bubble to burst” or to be “found out”. In my mind, it was really only a matter of time before I’d be uncovered, as the “fluke” I was.
I really didn’t believe that I was good enough, worthy enough and smart enough to not only have created successful businesses, but to have also the lifestyle, and freedom that I had.
It just didn’t seem right. I mean, this was me, we were talking about. Maini. That girl who really didn’t think much of herself. That girl who really didn’t like herself, or love herself. That girl who really thought she was quite useless and not very valuable. How could “She” be successful?
The girl who was the most unpopular at school. Constantly bullied and picked on. The girl who’s family didn’t even want her. The girl who was so afraid of rejection, that she’d push people away first before they had the chance to do it. How could she be successful?
Here are the facts. I was. Despite all this, I still managed to do o.k for myself. Not as well as I’d like, mind you, but o.k.
I guess in that instance, I was “lucky”. Either that or I am just really talented. (LOL)
So many people, each and every day fail in their businesses because of the reasons above. Millions of people all across the globe suffer from the same things I’ve talked about, and it’s all based on FEAR!
See, before the age of 7, we don’t know what’s real and what’s make-believe. So anything you have decided in your mind before that age is pretty much taken on as “Truth”. So if you’ve had experiences where you’ve felt not good enough or not worthy for example, then chances are you’ve downloaded these beliefs.
As it’s your unconscious mind’s job to protect you, and it thinks it’s doing that by continually playing these patterns, you could end up going through your entire life, never releasing these deep-seated beliefs from your unconscious, and then never getting the lifestyle you truly want and desire.
Even though you may want more, you may find yourself struggling to get it, simply because of the beliefs you’ve downloaded as a child.
The great news is though, there is something you can do about them. For years I searched for the answers to my issues, and it wasn’t until I discovered NLP, that my world completely changed. Working with an NLP practitioner, I was able to remove the limiting beliefs such as I am not good enough, I am not worthy and I am not wanted from my unconscious mind. This then freed me up to build my self-confidence and self-belief, so I could go out, take massive action and do the things I needed to do.
Now I help hundreds of women across the globe, do exactly what I’ve done. Clearing their mindsets of the beliefs and fears holding them back. One of our clients has gone from a shy accountant to the CEO of the company. Others have completely transformed their businesses and come out on top. It’s all possible with the help of NLP.
So, if you are tired of living in that place of fear, and you are ready to explore the possibility of your true freedom, then reach out. Life is way too short not to get every bit of juice out of it, and you really can do anything, you know. You just have to believe you can.